Am I Stuck In Life Or Just Tangled? 6 Insightful Questions To Find Out Now.
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When things aren’t heading in the right direction, we can feel stuck in life. We can feel lost when we don’t know what we want or if nothing is moving. But maybe the question is, “Am I stuck in life or just tangled?
There’s a common denominator in believing you’re lost, unhappy, and …stuck. It’s the feeling that you can’t move and that nothing around you can or will ever change. That’s a familiar perception for any of us at some point. However, it’s almost always inaccurate.
Telling you that will either feel comforting, confusing or straight-up annoying. One of the worst things you can suggest to an upset person is, “Calm down.” A useless thing to say to an angry person is, “Don’t be mad at me.”
When you feel stuck in life, someone telling you that you aren’t stuck can piss you off pretty quickly. If you feel like you can’t move in your world and don’t know what to do next, we sound crazy. You are probably reading this for a good reason. So let’s change the question to something more useful. “Am I stuck in life or just tangled?
Before you scream, “When you come live in my life for a day, you can tell me I’m not stuck,”…..grab a cup of coffee. Let’s talk about this.
Before you decide, we are just putting a pink bow and a prettier word on something; hear us out. This isn’t just about giving your overwhelming feeling a new name. We are talking about seeing it from a different perspective and redefining the problem.
That is where solutions start showing up, no matter the topic. What if you could see your situation from an Enchanted Perspective? Talk about pretty words…but they are powerful and meaningful words too.
What Are Enchanted Perspectives?
Seeing life from Enchanted Perspectives creates tangible ways to find and make real choices. It’s a way to create your life by desire and design instead of denial and default. Living in an Enchanted Perspective is a lot of little pieces that make practical and significant change.
When we suggest you see things in an “Enchanted Perspective,” we don’t mean wearing your drinking goggles or calling a white donkey a Unicorn. Instead, we mean changing the perspective of the problem to one of seeing things in a way you haven’t tried.
It’s The Science Of Solution.
In the words of Wayne Dyer and Max Planck before him (the grandfather of quantum physics), “When you change how you look at something, what you look at changes.”
When you look at something from an Enchanted Perspective, you are looking at it in the direction of a solution. With a solution comes change.
We aren’t talking puppies and rainbow kittens here (although we like puppies and rainbow kittens). We are suggesting tangible facts that apply to you in a specific way. We aren’t saying, “look at the bright side.”
We are saying look at a side you may not have known existed. What if you are not stuck in life but just tangled? Also, remember that what tangles in life can be equally untangled.
What if there is a perspective that focuses on solution and change instead of giving your power away? What if “It is what it is, and there is nothing I can do about it” isn’t true?
What is the difference between stuck and tangled? If you are stuck in your life, everything is unmovable and unchangeable, and you feel hopeless. But we’ve all either experienced or read about impossible situations that did become possible.
Tangled isn’t fun and is not where anyone wants to be. However, tangled means twisted, knotted, one thing wrapped up in another. Again, what you find to be tangled can be equally untangled.
Feel Stuck In Life? Hope Lives In Choices.
We hope that when you hear this question. It’s a powerful one. “Am I stuck in life or just tangled?” Tangled is far easier to work with than stuck. The idea of “Tangled” is like a rope thrown to you. What if this “hope rope” gives you breathing room and a little space to move?
Once you can wiggle your fingers and toes, the feeling that you’re stuck in your life has hope. Hope lives in choices, and good choices can make all the difference.
So how do you know if you are really stuck in your life or just tangled? We usually ask 6 Insightful Questions. They are straightforward questions to focus on solving what’s happening instead of drowning in the problem. So here we go…
“Am I Stuck In Life or Just Tangled?” Question #1 If You’re Stuck In Life, What Keeps You From Moving?
By definition, the word “stuck” means that you can’t move. It means there are no options, possibilities, or a way out. You have options unless you are in solitary confinement in a maximum-security prison right now. (We’re guessing that’s not where you are because you wouldn’t have the internet to read blogs.)
It might be what life feels like, but is it true? There is always an option, always another possibility. Sometimes they aren’t fantastic options, but there are always options.
We tend to blame others when we feel stuck in life. However, in most cases, we have given our power away to someone who shouldn’t have it. We only need to take that power back to create a new option and begin to see all the possibilities. 7 Clear and Easy Steps When You Feel Stuck In Life
There is usually a place to go, a stand to take, or a room to walk out of somewhere. It doesn’t mean it will always be fun or easy, but it is possible and doable.
If you aren’t in control of your life, who is? If it’s not you… it’s time that it was. Who or what are you giving your power away to right now? What or Who is making you feel stuck when you aren’t.
“Am I Stuck In Life Or Just Tangled?” Question#2 Am I Stuck In Life, Or Am I Tired, Bored, Uninspired, Or…Afraid?
Some common denominators seem to appear when folks tell us they feel stuck in life. They feel like their life is going nowhere, and they don’t know what to do next. Some tell us that nothing in their life is moving, and they aren’t getting anything they want to have, be or do.
Many will express that they are not getting what they want and have no idea where to look for it. Then they realize they aren’t getting or finding what they want because they don’t know what they want. Everything feels like the same poopy-doo…different day.
In self-discovery and honesty, it often comes down to finding they aren’t stuck at all. They are tangled in their own exhaustion, or they are bored as they try to keep doing what is no longer interesting to them. Choices made a long time ago are no longer feeding their soul.
They are uninspired as they try to find meaning in things that no longer have any purpose for them. Sometimes they are afraid and not even sure why they are scared. It’s often fear of failure, fear of the unknown, or fear of…everything.
It may take some sorting, but self-discovery is always the prize when you get it done. The first steps are to discover where you are, where you want to be, what you want to happen, and what you fear will happen. 7 Clear And Easy Steps When You Feel Stuck In Life
Untangle your feelings, desires, and fears, and a new set of options will appear. Where there are options in life, life cannot be stuck.
“Am I Stuck In Life Or Just Tangled?” Question #3 Am I Stuffing Several Things Into One Problem?
Now we are back to sorting. We often think we have one thing we are dealing with when it’s several things. We could have a few different things tangled into one pile. What if it feels like one big problem, but it really is 3 or 4 minor things going on at once?
Often they aren’t even problems. They are agitations and irritations. You have a tangled mess when you pile them in with another topic, another feeling, and another happening.
When you realize that you aren’t stuck but tangled in a busy life with many moving pieces, you have some space to step back and look at the situation. Is this feeling of being stuck as significant and constricting as it feels, or are you just tangled in the dangling details of different things? 7 Clear and Easy Steps When You Feel Stuck In Life
“Am I Stuck In Life Or Just Tangled?” Question #4 Am I Really Stuck In Life? Do I Really Have “No” Options?
Our brain and nervous system want to sound the alarm the first time something pushes back against what we want. But it is a very, very extreme situation that has no options. “No options,” by definition, is what being stuck is.
So, yes, some things are what they are and can’t be changed. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have the option of looking at it differently, giving it a different meaning, or taking another action.
It’s not always easy and often takes some courage, patience, and choosing to change where you are in the situation. However, it is done every day by people living average lives. In other words, no superpowers needed.
Just being willing to see something differently creates a new option. It is then about choosing again and maybe even yet again to create a different result. You might feel stuck in life, but what’s truly happening is you have some untangling to do.
“Am I Stuck In Life Or Just Tangled?” Question #5 Have I Been Here Before And Got Out?
Unless you are new to the planet, you have probably felt like this before. You may have even been in this exact same spot before. The point is…somehow…you got out. If you got unstuck once, you will get unstuck again.
We sometimes wonder, “How will I ever get out of this mess?” The answer is, “The same way you got in…one step at a time.” There are always options and always a way out. But, of course, you already know this (you just wanted to make us feel smart).
You know it because this isn’t your first rodeo. You were stuck before. Then you became unstuck and moved on to tell the story.
These are the dangling details. They are fear of the unknown and the doubt that your brain is chanting to you. Untangle the thoughts and fears, and you are free to make a new choice.
New choice creates options. When you have options, you are not stuck in your life. Instead, you see new possibilities where none seemed to be before.
“Am I Stuck In Life Or Just Tangled?” Question #6 Do I Know Anyone Else Who Has Felt Stuck In Life In This Space And Got Out?
But what if this is a whole new category of, “What the hell do I do now?” Maybe this is new to you. Perhaps this is a situation you hadn’t thought about, much less experienced. Then who do you know?
Who do you know who has been in a similar pickle? Take them to coffee. What did they do? How did they do it? Most people are glad to share their stories as they take their victory lap.
If you don’t know a living, breathing person, who can you look to in history, movies, and books? Yep, we are suggesting you look to people who are dead and imaginary. Inspiration is where you find it. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between what really happened and what you just read on Pinterest.
If it creates a feeling of hope, inspiration, or “I wonder…” it’s good stuff. Ideas are everywhere for your discovery, your options, your choices, and your motivations.
How did someone else realize they weren’t stuck but just tangled? How did they sort it out? How did they get untangled? Where did they look? What attitude did they take?
Try on that identity and possibility for you. It’s just as much yours as it seems to be theirs. Here’s a great book written by country singer Jimmy Wayne. He tells his story in a way that helps you to know what to do with your own story. (Click here to get your copy.)
Create Your Life By Desire And Design Instead Of Denial And Default.
When you stop believing in the situation of being stuck in life, you will feel stuck less often. Changing the name of that “Now what do I do now?” feeling might make it look different. Change that pause, that momentary feeling of distress, to, “Oops, I’m tangled again.”
You only need to ask yourself a few questions to know the difference between being stuck in life and being tangled. Once you see the difference, you will be different. That difference in vision, discovery and thought will change the problem, change the solution and change your life.
It’s all about Enchanted Perspectives and choices!
Pixi Pebbles… To Live By Design
Pixi-Pebbles are songs, quotes, videos, interviews, movie references, and books that we each personally pick for you.
We’ve used these little Pixi-Pebbles to move ourselves from a feeling we’re not enjoying very much…to a feeling that helps us discover our vision of intention, awareness, and direction.
They lead us to hope, possibilities, and a fire under our butt to live life by design instead of default.
In our blog Am I Stuck In Life Or Just Tangled? 6 Insightful Questions To Find Out Now message, these are the Pixi-Pebbles that came to mind.
Just a little inspiration to get you from here to there.
We love the scene from the movie Tangled. It really is a healing song.
Check out the healing song from the movie Tangled!
